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March 21, 2008



I understand just what you are saying here. I often look at my daughter at 3 1/2 and imagine what she'll be like at 5 and 6. Will she have matured beyond where she is now?

This was a really wonderful post that has given me much to think about. Excellent links too.


Both my son and i have grown and learnt so much through the challenges that we have faced.
The labels have fallen by the wayside as they seem to loose thier importance.
We are both blessed and the gifts are enormous.


"And so we are back to the eternal question of what is 'quirkiness' (lovable eccentricity) versus 'disorder' (off-putting)."

Probably a little of both.

For instance, being able to pass the bar exam on the first try sometimes tends to throw people off that a person just might have other issues that make it profoundly difficult to do other things.

I look at it this way - God forbid your child would have been in some sort of freak accident shortly after birth and, say, would be paralysed from the waist down or some such for the rest of his days. You'd teach him how to use wheelchairs and other assistive devices to get around.

Similarly, he just may need some extra help in navigating friendships and interviews and many other things "social". You just recognize these things and hope for the best.

At the end of the day your child has strengths and weaknesses like all other children - they just may be balanced a little differently as all.


I relate to so much of this. And I agree with Drama Mama, but day-to-day? I find it hard to hold on to that. I think that's why I blog. To remind myself that it's all okay. That there is good everywhere. That it may be different, but it's not bad. That who he is, is who he is and all of it is what it is supposed to be.

Thanks for a thoughtful post, Susan.

Special Needs Mama

I've heard many mention the hazards of "invisible" disabilities. You remind me that every road is hard, so hard. Hang in there. I know there are surprises ahead, but some of them might actually be good. You never know.


One day, one year at a time my dear. Isaac is growing in leaps and bounds —in so many ways— that you just can't know what the future will hold. It will unfold as it is meant to —with you and J right there helping to guide Isaac along in all the ways he needs. And you will be there to fight for the things he needs to succeed in school as well.

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