We had friends over last night, and talked, you know, about things. One of the odd paradoxes we discussed is the fact that children on the spectrum (most children, actually) crave a sense of structure and like to know what's coming next. At the same time, our kids have a particular tendency to become anxious about transitions, even if they are transitions to something they dearly want. So it is sometimes a delicate balancing act, the act of telling. Or you can call it by its real name: a crapshoot.